By PLAVEB

Archive for March, 2010

Who can you trust to help you deal with your fears? Article 2. Practical advice to help you make a safe decision.

Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

In this, the second in the series of 8 articles aimed at helping you to choose a safe service to help you deal with your fears, nerves, anxiety and even panic attacks, I will be looking at probably one of the most telling signs as to whether you can trust a service or not. In this day and age it is very easy to produce a website that looks professional, glossy and convincing. However when you analyse the content of the website you quite often find that behind the clever marketing and glossy graphics there is nothing else but clever tactics to get people to buy their product.

Probably the biggest clue that the individual or individuals responsible for the site are not suitably qualified, experienced or doing anything more than just selling a product is the fact that the website concerned only contains sales messages. If you feel across a site that is only geared towards selling a product and has no useful content, articles, blogs or preferably research then it is quite likely that at best the product is based on one solution, or at worst is a scam.

If the service being offered was produced by a professional and an expert you would expect to find considerable evidence of professional activity, and sharing that expertise freely with the community. Rather than simply showing their expertise in selling and marketing.

So if the site concerned is just about sell and there is no evidence of professional and expert activity I would suggest you look elsewhere.

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The 8 things you need to know to choose a professional, qualified, experienced and safe service to help you deal with your nerves, fears, anxieties or even panic attacks.

Tuesday, March 23rd, 2010

If you suffer from nerves, fears, anxieties and/or panic attacks getting help is not easy. Often the medical profession will either turn to pharmacological medication usually in the form of either tranquillisers or antidepressants, or refer the individual a lengthy process of counseling.

Sufferers who turned to the Internet for help are faced with an avalanche of options. It is not easy to decide from a series of websites which service is a professionally qualified and safe option. Just because a site offering help looks professional does not mean that the service is professional, qualified or most importantly safe. Good web design and lengthy descriptions of the service do not insure that you are buying a safe product.

Over the next series of blogs I will show you 8 ways you can tell a professional and safe service from one that has just been written on a kitchen table by someone with no qualifications, who are probably just turning out e-book’s, and materials without any qualifications or experience in helping people deal with their issues.

The first thing you can look for on a website or from any service is whether they offer a money back guarantee. Any genuine and professional service will offer such a guarantee without question. A money back guarantee shows that the individual or organisation concerned has confidence in their product and are willing to back their claims with an immediate refund if you’re not happy with their service. Do not consider a service that does not have an explicit and open promise to refund your money if you are not completely satisfied with the service provided.

In the next blog I will look at probably one of the biggest tell tale signs that a site might not be offering a safe and qualified service to help you with your nerves, fears and anxieties.

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Fear, emotional resilience and honesty

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

I was asked yesterday what emotional resilience has got to do with honesty. Try this…

You know when you have said something in the privacy of your own home about someone and the kids have overheard you? For example you say that Mrs. Goggins from No 43 is a mean old git or something similar.

Then when you are with your young child in the street and you meet Mrs. Goggins, What is the one thing you pray your child doesn’t do right now?

Yeah that’s right be honest! You may recognise the feeling of the moment your child pipes up “Hi mrs. Goggins my Mum / Dad thinks (as you leap for their mouth) you are a mean old git” and you lie by saying something like, “Oh no I think she/he must have got confused we were talking about another Mrs. Goggins.”

Then in all cringe making innocence daughter or son pipes up “No Mum/Dad you said it was her, you know, this Mrs. Goggins, from number 43, you said mum/dad, you said.” as you start to die inside, “Oh look at the time, must dash, lovely to see you Mrs. Goggins, as always.” and under your breath, just loud enough for you your son/daughter to hear, “Wait till I get you home. you really embarrassed me”.

Now we all have opinions of people that we don’t tell people. We often rationalise it as ‘Not wishing to be hurtful’ or ‘I don’t want to cause trouble’, or ‘better let sleeping dogs lye’. What we actually mean (because we are often not being honest with ourselves)  is “I don’t like the feelings and don’t want the consequences of being that honest.”

Fear usually drives our lack of total honesty. It takes courage and emotional resilience to really say what we really think and face up to the fact that it is often our lack of courage (not the other excuses) that prevents us from voicing our opinions.

The other side of this coin is people being totally honest with us; being told something (feedback) about ourselves that we don’t like and we don’t want to hear, no matter how true it might be. Something that ‘hurts us’. Often we rationalise this by deflection by saying something like ‘Oh it’s ok they are just in a mood’ or something like that to shift the blame and the emotional consequences. It takes real emotional resilience to firstly hear what people are saying about us, often with their body language and then face up to it and truly and openly explore the feedback for what we can learn and change about our attitudes and behaviours.

Just a thought.

Dave

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