Think about a person who is emotionally immature. What are they like?
Now think about a person who is emotionally mature. What are they like?
What is the difference between the two?
Chances are you will probably include some of the following attributes:
- Accurate self confidence
- A good level of self esteem
- The ability to express the full range of emotions appropriately - this includes anger, joy, love and fear
- Respect for your own and others emotional states
- The ability to experience and enjoy intimacy and solitude
- Be able to be emotionally balanced in emotionally charged situations
- The ability to make balanced decisions in difficult situations
- Can make independent decisions and not be swayed by group or peer pressure
- Able to work on your own and as a constructive part of a group
- Mood stability, not prone to ‘downers’, negative or overly positive or unrealistic pessimistic or optimistic thinking
- Seeks reality regardless of the personal consequences
- Ability to nurture others and self
- Ability to deal with own inappropriate fears and not catch those of others (emotional resilience)
- Not prone to panic / calm in the face of adversity
- Healthy self image
- Assertive as opposed to aggressive, submissive, passive aggressive or manipulative.
- Compassionate to self and others
- Seeks to understand own responses and those of others
- Accurately reflect on own performance - not prone to over or under estimating the situation
- Can give and actively seek accurate and honest feedback
- Can be honest even in situations where this might be challenged
- Aware of own biases and actively looks to find others.
All of the above are attributes of emotional maturity. Stay tuned for Emotional Maturity and Emotional Resilience questionnaires - coming soon to this site.
