You have spent ages planning your wedding. Everything is set for the big day and the honeymoon. The Hotel is booked. The dress is being specially made for the bride by an amazing dressmaker. You are looking forward to your honeymoon, flying off to an exotic but secret location for a couple of weeks together on your own.
And then with days to go you visit the dressmaker for the final fitting. The door to the dressmakers shop is locked. Worse the shop looks empty. ‘That’s odd’ you think to yourself and then your friend notices a small handwritten notice taped to the inside of the shop window. The xxxxx Bridal Wedding Dress Company is in administration. All inquiries to and the name and address of a solicitors is given. You stand there looking at the notice. The wedding is in Three days time. What do you do?
Then when you get home the telephone rings. It is your fiance. “Darling I have some bad news and I don’t know what to do” you blurt out. He sounds oddly muted as he says me “Me too”.
“What’s wrong?” you both say together
Picking up on his uncharacteristically ‘down’ tone you offer “You first darling. what’s happened?”
“I rang the xxxxxxx hotel today to give them the final numbers for the food for the reception and” he pauses.
You fill the space desperate to find out what has happened that is making him sound so sad, “Yes and?”
“Well the manager answered and told me they had gone bust and had to call the receivers in. The reception is off.”
You sit there stunned. Your groom-to-be on the other end of the phone says slowly “And your news?”
Later that night you are both sitting on the sofa trying to work out how to rescue the wedding with the television on in the background. You are trying to weigh up whether it is just best to cancel, it’s just telling all those people. Oh and what about those people who are right now flying to be with you on your wedding day? As you discuss the possibilities you become aware of the news on the TV. An airline has gone bust stranding 1000’s of travelers.
“At least we are not stranded far from home” you say turning to your husband-to-be.
He has gone white. “You look like you have seen a ghost, what on earth is wrong?”
“I feel sick” he replies staring at the TV
“Why?” you turn to see images of airplanes and people queuing at airports and an angry man talking to a reporter, gesticulating wildly.
“That is the airline we are booked on to go on honeymoon with in four days time.”
“Stop messing around”
“I’m not messing around that really is the airline we were booked on to go on our honeymoon with.”
You just look at each other. No words come. The feeling in your stomach lurches.
Too far fetched? It actually happened to Karen and Kenneth Porter from Durham in the UK this month. In fact it was even worse because Karen ended up having an operation on her foot 3 weeks before the wedding and her wedding shoes didn’t fit! However all worked out well in the end, it was just the stress they endured on the run up to their wedding. Did they get wedding nerves? Guess.
What would you do? This really is a moment for emotional resilience.
We have a series of really brilliant tips for dealing with the causes of wedding nerves. You can get these absolutely free here.
(The guides the tips refer to are not quite ready yet but we will let you know the moment they are.)
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